I am learning to go with the flow! I have a confession to make: I was a real control freak. I say ‘real’ control freak because I didn’t realise I was one. I did things with the best of intentions. I felt that I should be able to make sure everyone was happy and OK. I had unreal expectations of myself and situations and became frustrated if I couldn’t make things ‘right’. These irrational thoughts and perfectionist expectations led to high stress levels. But now I’m free and am stepping into stillness. So what have I stopped doing and… Continue reading
It’s Valentine’s Day on Sunday; a day for love, or dread, depending upon your situation. Time pressures can be an issue in all aspects of our lives; including our relationships as it is hard to build relationships without time. Being present in your relationship can be hard in a fast-paced life with so many demands and priorities. You may have many items on your to-do list that need your attention but make sure that you give your relationship quality time and your partner the love they deserve. Plan time together; maybe a romantic overnight break where you unplug and… Continue reading
As a mother, do you take time for yourself? Do you spend money on yourself or do you see this as selfish? I used to. I used to think that my existence once I had a baby was all about my child and I wanted to be a ‘perfect mother’. I still worked full-time and in fact that made things worse for me because then I felt I had to be ‘Superwoman’. Needless to say, I couldn’t keep it up and it affected my health.
I began to realise that trying to be a perfect mother is… Continue reading
Do you ever look back over your year and reflect on what you have achieved and what you have learnt? I usually want to forget the current year and move on to the next in the hope it will be better. However, this year I have achieved so much, both personally and with my family.
As I look back over the year, I realise how things have changed and how much I have learnt. Here are 10 things I have discovered…
Two small words that carry so much power. It is important to feel appreciated by those we love. If we become so comfortable with those we live with, we can easily forget to thank them for things that they do. Expectation takes over and people begin to feel unappreciated. If you feel like this it is important to allow yourself some level of vulnerability and to express this to your loved ones, in a calm and balanced way.
Likewise, “Thank you” in the workplace makes such a difference to the workforce feeling valued and appreciated,… Continue reading
“Vulnerability is weakness”; that’s how many of us see it.
Often we push away and shut our emotions off in order to protect ourselves. We become resentful of those who show their emotions. Through our fear and discomfort we judge and criticise others.
When we think of vulnerability we think of pain and ‘dark’ emotions such as fear, grief and disappointment but emotions can also be ‘light’, such as love, joy, courage and empathy. With vulnerability comes uncertainty and risk and therefore we can tend to avoid it. However, love is also a risk and yet we still embark upon… Continue reading