People seem to be more aware of how they are feeling. They label their feelings as ‘good’ and ‘bad’ but feelings are neutral and are part of being human. It frequently appears as though our feelings are coming from something outside us; from our bank balance, partner, children, job or boss.
Some feelings can seem really strong; ones we wish would go away. The stronger the feeling, the more we feel it is telling us about something true and the more it appears we need to act to change something. We begin to try to ‘fix’ our circumstances, or think… Continue reading
When it looks like you need more… resilience
As you transform in your business you can experience discomfort and resistance. In fact, this can occur during any period of change in life events. At the base of this is stressful and insecure thinking. It can appear in many forms and manifest as:
• Self-doubt • Frustration (with yourself or others) • Anxiety • Physically – in various symptoms • Overwhelm • Uncertainty • Confusion • Stress • Exhaustion
Humans are designed with a self-protection mechanism to keep us safe. This was particularly useful when coming face-to-face with a… Continue reading
I have spent many years adding to my life; making my life harder, trying to find solutions to ‘problems’ I perceived I had. I’m not saying they weren’t there but at the time I didn’t realise where my experience was coming from. I have invested in so many self-help books over the years, moving towards self-development (so that I wasn’t completely broken but ‘could be better’). It has always been an interest of mine.
The thing I have come to discover is that all I have been doing by practicing the latest tool or technique is actually… Continue reading
Fear is a vital response to keep us safe. We can easily recognise fear when watching a scary movie, going on a ride at a theme park or realising we are in danger physically. But fear can strike in our lives in a range of ways when we may not even recognise it.
Fear has basic survival instincts attached to it. The fear of extinction or mutilation help to keep us safe but the fear of loss of autonomy, separation or even our ego cause all sorts of problems in our lives. Fear can lead to behaviours such as self-sabotage,… Continue reading