When it looks like you need more… resilience
As you transform in your business you can experience discomfort and resistance. In fact, this can occur during any period of change in life events. At the base of this is stressful and insecure thinking. It can appear in many forms and manifest as:
• Self-doubt • Frustration (with yourself or others) • Anxiety • Physically – in various symptoms • Overwhelm • Uncertainty • Confusion • Stress • Exhaustion
Humans are designed with a self-protection mechanism to keep us safe. This was particularly useful when coming face-to-face with a… Continue reading
“Thought creates the world and then says I didn’t do it.”
I hadn’t even heard of this quote until 5 months ago but I love it! It is a quote by David Bohm, one of the most influential physicists of the 20th century and a front runner in the field of quantum physics. I realised how true it is when I reflected on my resigning from a post a while back. I was working my notice and was feeling quite disgruntled as I felt I had moved on in my head and then realised it was down to… Continue reading
I am learning to go with the flow! I have a confession to make: I was a real control freak. I say ‘real’ control freak because I didn’t realise I was one. I did things with the best of intentions. I felt that I should be able to make sure everyone was happy and OK. I had unreal expectations of myself and situations and became frustrated if I couldn’t make things ‘right’. These irrational thoughts and perfectionist expectations led to high stress levels. But now I’m free and am stepping into stillness. So what have I stopped doing and… Continue reading
Many people I have met, of varying ages, are prone to ‘overthinking’ at times. Some spend more time than others doing this. Whilst it is good to be in touch with your thoughts and feelings, if you spend long periods of time constantly analysing them it can lead to feeling stuck in negative thoughts and feelings. You create problems that aren’t even there. This increase in stress makes your thinking more rigid and your decisions can often be forced.
Overthinking can also hold you in fear. You are either stuck in the past with negative voices… Continue reading
As a mother, do you take time for yourself? Do you spend money on yourself or do you see this as selfish? I used to. I used to think that my existence once I had a baby was all about my child and I wanted to be a ‘perfect mother’. I still worked full-time and in fact that made things worse for me because then I felt I had to be ‘Superwoman’. Needless to say, I couldn’t keep it up and it affected my health.
I began to realise that trying to be a perfect mother is… Continue reading
It is the Winter Solstice today and a perfect time of year to acknowledge what is not working for you and quite simply let it go; then identify what you would like to achieve and look to move forward with your life.
Sometimes we try to hold on to things that are no longer working for us out of habit or perceived security. We also hold onto people that are no longer there for us. It doesn’t mean we have failed, or even that they have failed us; it just means that things have changed.
“Change is inevitable, progress is… Continue reading
Do you ever look back over your year and reflect on what you have achieved and what you have learnt? I usually want to forget the current year and move on to the next in the hope it will be better. However, this year I have achieved so much, both personally and with my family.
As I look back over the year, I realise how things have changed and how much I have learnt. Here are 10 things I have discovered…
Today is ‘National Stress Awareness Day’ and the theme for this year is:
“Employee Wellbeing as a Worthwhile Investment in Your Business”
Anyone who has worked with me over the last year will know how important I believe staff wellbeing is. It is important for all. We cannot support young children as parents, teachers or role-models if we cannot look after, or take responsibility for, our own wellbeing and the wellbeing of our staff and employees. Management should lead by example as well as support staff in ways to reduce stress. Here are some … Continue reading
‘Perfectionism, in psychology, is a personality trait characterised by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.’
It’s something I know I have. It is a very strong trait in my family. My cousin gave me some wise words years ago. She told me I could run with it and use it being genetic as an excuse and let it take over my life. Or, I could acknowledge it is there and learn to control it.
Perfectionism is a way to control situations, but left unchecked… Continue reading
Fear is a vital response to keep us safe. We can easily recognise fear when watching a scary movie, going on a ride at a theme park or realising we are in danger physically. But fear can strike in our lives in a range of ways when we may not even recognise it.
Fear has basic survival instincts attached to it. The fear of extinction or mutilation help to keep us safe but the fear of loss of autonomy, separation or even our ego cause all sorts of problems in our lives. Fear can lead to behaviours such as self-sabotage,… Continue reading