People seem to be more aware of how they are feeling. They label their feelings as ‘good’ and ‘bad’ but feelings are neutral and are part of being human. It frequently appears as though our feelings are coming from something outside us; from our bank balance, partner, children, job or boss.
Some feelings can seem really strong; ones we wish would go away. The stronger the feeling, the more we feel it is telling us about something true and the more it appears we need to act to change something. We begin to try to ‘fix’ our circumstances, or think… Continue reading
Reality shows are everywhere nowadays. Take your pick. There are a few I will have to admit that I watch. Generally, I find them entertaining to watch when there is no one else around and I am overthinking (once I have woken up in the night). They help me to distract myself from my thoughts. Once I have watched a programme, I can go to sleep and the noisy thinking has generally stopped.
The other night I was watching a certain American reality show based on a group of housewives. Suddenly, right before my… Continue reading
We live in a frantic world; expectations are all around us.
We all have expectations to varying degrees of ourselves and others and there are expectations placed upon us.
We expect others to live by our standards, values and beliefs.
We also have expectations that others will act in a certain way based upon past experiences: let us down, break our trust, leave us.
Our expectations lead us to judge others and feel disappointed if they don’t meet them.
When you become a parent there are expectations you place upon yourself and there are ones placed on us by others.… Continue reading