When it looks like you need more… resilience
As you transform in your business you can experience discomfort and resistance. In fact, this can occur during any period of change in life events. At the base of this is stressful and insecure thinking. It can appear in many forms and manifest as:
• Self-doubt • Frustration (with yourself or others) • Anxiety • Physically – in various symptoms • Overwhelm • Uncertainty • Confusion • Stress • Exhaustion
Humans are designed with a self-protection mechanism to keep us safe. This was particularly useful when coming face-to-face with a… Continue reading
“Thought creates the world and then says I didn’t do it.”
I hadn’t even heard of this quote until 5 months ago but I love it! It is a quote by David Bohm, one of the most influential physicists of the 20th century and a front runner in the field of quantum physics. I realised how true it is when I reflected on my resigning from a post a while back. I was working my notice and was feeling quite disgruntled as I felt I had moved on in my head and then realised it was down to… Continue reading
Many people I have met, of varying ages, are prone to ‘overthinking’ at times. Some spend more time than others doing this. Whilst it is good to be in touch with your thoughts and feelings, if you spend long periods of time constantly analysing them it can lead to feeling stuck in negative thoughts and feelings. You create problems that aren’t even there. This increase in stress makes your thinking more rigid and your decisions can often be forced.
Overthinking can also hold you in fear. You are either stuck in the past with negative voices… Continue reading
It is the Winter Solstice today and a perfect time of year to acknowledge what is not working for you and quite simply let it go; then identify what you would like to achieve and look to move forward with your life.
Sometimes we try to hold on to things that are no longer working for us out of habit or perceived security. We also hold onto people that are no longer there for us. It doesn’t mean we have failed, or even that they have failed us; it just means that things have changed.
“Change is inevitable, progress is… Continue reading
‘Perfectionism, in psychology, is a personality trait characterised by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.’
It’s something I know I have. It is a very strong trait in my family. My cousin gave me some wise words years ago. She told me I could run with it and use it being genetic as an excuse and let it take over my life. Or, I could acknowledge it is there and learn to control it.
Perfectionism is a way to control situations, but left unchecked… Continue reading
Fear is a vital response to keep us safe. We can easily recognise fear when watching a scary movie, going on a ride at a theme park or realising we are in danger physically. But fear can strike in our lives in a range of ways when we may not even recognise it.
Fear has basic survival instincts attached to it. The fear of extinction or mutilation help to keep us safe but the fear of loss of autonomy, separation or even our ego cause all sorts of problems in our lives. Fear can lead to behaviours such as self-sabotage,… Continue reading
Fatigue can become a downward spiral; sometimes triggered by a particular event, other times it is due to a build-up of other factors. It is helpful to investigate where your energy is going. Here are some tips on ways to enhance energy. Think about what applies to you. Be honest with yourself about what may contribute to a lack of energy and what could be introduced.
Here are ten ways you can make changes in your life to improve the amount of energy you have.
Sleep – needs vary but quality and quantity of sleep is important. … Continue reading
“All the mistakes I ever made were when I wanted to say ‘No’ and said ‘Yes’. (Moss Hart)
Often we do this because we want to be liked. However, through doing this we can easily become overcommitted and too busy to enjoy life. Then feel we have let ourselves down and resent the person who asked us.
I have a friend who always used to say, “I’ve done it again.” She is still learning to say ‘No’ but is becoming more aware of this. She would often have ‘No’ in her head but ‘Yes’ would come out of her mouth.… Continue reading
Change is inevitable. Have you ever wondered why change is so stressful for many of us? Even good transitions are stressful. It is fear of the unknown and adjustments to our day-to-day lives which cause the stress and both good and bad change all need adjustment. Also if we encounter situations or events that are not consistent with our core beliefs we experience levels of stress. Our brains expect most things to stay as they are. The earlier we learn something in our lives the harder it is to change. That is why children are more adaptable to change as… Continue reading