When it looks like you need more… resilience
As you transform in your business you can experience discomfort and resistance. In fact, this can occur during any period of change in life events. At the base of this is stressful and insecure thinking. It can appear in many forms and manifest as:
• Self-doubt • Frustration (with yourself or others) • Anxiety • Physically – in various symptoms • Overwhelm • Uncertainty • Confusion • Stress • Exhaustion
Humans are designed with a self-protection mechanism to keep us safe. This was particularly useful when coming face-to-face with a… Continue reading
I have spent many years adding to my life; making my life harder, trying to find solutions to ‘problems’ I perceived I had. I’m not saying they weren’t there but at the time I didn’t realise where my experience was coming from. I have invested in so many self-help books over the years, moving towards self-development (so that I wasn’t completely broken but ‘could be better’). It has always been an interest of mine.
The thing I have come to discover is that all I have been doing by practicing the latest tool or technique is actually… Continue reading
“I never have time”, that’s my excuse for not going to the gym for the last few months. This is not strictly true as I proved to myself when I trained in Performance Coaching whilst working 50 plus hours a week in my full-time teaching role. I could easily have thought I didn’t have time for all the hours I needed to do my training properly but some how I managed to find them. I’m so glad I did, as it has transformed my life.
Recently, another opportunity has come along to take my work to another… Continue reading
Two small words that carry so much power. It is important to feel appreciated by those we love. If we become so comfortable with those we live with, we can easily forget to thank them for things that they do. Expectation takes over and people begin to feel unappreciated. If you feel like this it is important to allow yourself some level of vulnerability and to express this to your loved ones, in a calm and balanced way.
Likewise, “Thank you” in the workplace makes such a difference to the workforce feeling valued and appreciated,… Continue reading
Today is ‘National Stress Awareness Day’ and the theme for this year is:
“Employee Wellbeing as a Worthwhile Investment in Your Business”
Anyone who has worked with me over the last year will know how important I believe staff wellbeing is. It is important for all. We cannot support young children as parents, teachers or role-models if we cannot look after, or take responsibility for, our own wellbeing and the wellbeing of our staff and employees. Management should lead by example as well as support staff in ways to reduce stress. Here are some … Continue reading
“All the mistakes I ever made were when I wanted to say ‘No’ and said ‘Yes’. (Moss Hart)
Often we do this because we want to be liked. However, through doing this we can easily become overcommitted and too busy to enjoy life. Then feel we have let ourselves down and resent the person who asked us.
I have a friend who always used to say, “I’ve done it again.” She is still learning to say ‘No’ but is becoming more aware of this. She would often have ‘No’ in her head but ‘Yes’ would come out of her mouth.… Continue reading
What is the focus of your life?
It is easy to focus on past events, blame others for your current situation, look at others and think that could have been me and to focus on what you don’t have.
Instead, ensure you focus on what you are grateful for; what you do have in your life.
Fear of failure often outweighs the desire to succeed. Focus on what you will achieve and then you will unlock a new aspect of yourself that you didn’t know you had.
Don’t blame others or your past, for what you don’t have, or… Continue reading
My husband is very focused on tasks and sees each one through to completion before he moves on. I used to think I was superior as I could multitask. However, I know I get near the end of activities and virtually complete them but don’t always see them through till the end.
Nowadays complete focus on one activity is deemed the way forward and the most productive.
As I write this I am checking my phone, watching TV , answering questions, helping one of my daughters with her phone and talking to my husband.
It is difficult to monotask these… Continue reading
Change is inevitable. Have you ever wondered why change is so stressful for many of us? Even good transitions are stressful. It is fear of the unknown and adjustments to our day-to-day lives which cause the stress and both good and bad change all need adjustment. Also if we encounter situations or events that are not consistent with our core beliefs we experience levels of stress. Our brains expect most things to stay as they are. The earlier we learn something in our lives the harder it is to change. That is why children are more adaptable to change as… Continue reading
Time is such an enigma. How many times do you say, “I never have enough time” or “I need more hours in a day!” I am guilty of saying these frequently.
Sometimes we need to put in time and commitment in order to achieve and to make something successful. However, we need to ensure some form of balance. The most successful people work hard for long hours but balance it by planning quality time as a break to recharge their batteries and be able to go again.
Plan in quality time with those you love. Look after your health. Plan… Continue reading