We live in a frantic world; expectations are all around us.
We all have expectations to varying degrees of ourselves and others and there are expectations placed upon us.
We expect others to live by our standards, values and beliefs.
We also have expectations that others will act in a certain way based upon past experiences: let us down, break our trust, leave us.
Our expectations lead us to judge others and feel disappointed if they don’t meet them.
When you become a parent there are expectations you place upon yourself and there are ones placed on us by others. Either, we are seen to do too much, or not enough, for our children. There are expectations placed on us by work, partners, children, family, friends and neighbours and by us on them. Expectation leads to disappointment.
“Expectation is the root of all heartache.” William Shakespeare.
So either improve your reality or lower your expectations. Allow yourself and others to make mistakes and accept the flaws that each other has. You will be better off when you realise that your expectations will not actually change another person, just create frustration for yourself and potentially damage your relationships. Try to maintain your goals and aspirations but don’t make them so high for yourself and others that they are impractical and perfectionistic.
Ways to avoid expectations:
Expectations lead to obligation and resentment. By all means share thoughts and feelings and goals with others. If everyone took 51% responsibility for thinking about other people’s feelings and 51% responsibility for ensuring the other person understood what we meant then the world would be a happier place.
“Trade your expectations for appreciation and your world changes in an instant.” Tony Robbins
When you let go of your expectations you can enjoy things for what they are rather than what you think they should be.
What are your expectations serving you?